Happy Mother's Day Mom!

When I was Young - Mom and me Today is a bitter sweet day for me. Even though my mother is still with us, she still isn’t all with us. After her stroke we lost a bit of my mother and that part of her is never coming back. She was a strong woman and mother! Some would call her supermom! She worked 2 jobs, fed us dinner everyday, and kept our huge home cleaned, and loved us like no other mom could.

Though I wish I could call her or better yet be there to give her a hug and a kiss, I don’t think she would understand that today is her day!

At any rate, I’m going to celebrate her, celebrate the mother I know and remember. I’m proud to be called her son. She has taught me so much and has taught me the meaning of love.

Happy Mother’s Day Mom!

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Happy Birthday Mom

Mom.JPG Today is my mother’s birthday and last year we’ve spent my mom’s birthday in a hospital right after her stroke. A year later, she’s out of the hospital, but now in a full care home and not sure she knows that today is her birthday.

It has been a tough year for all of us in my family, and we’ve all had to make adjustments in our lives. I haven’t spoken to her in sometime and the last time I did she cried on the phone, so I don’t want to upset her today.

I’m just so glad she’s still around, even though she might not fully be aware of what is going on. So mom, I wish you an amazing 75th birthday and I hope you at least know in your heart that you are loved by so many.

Happy Mother's Day Mom

Today we celebrate moms and all the wonderful things they do.

As you all might know, my mother suffered a stroke in November that has left her speechless and pretty much immobile. Granted these are pretty much her choices as she has refused therapy, and I doubt she would recognize that today is Mother’s Day.

All this is bitter sweet as we celebrate the fact that she is still with us, but at the same time she’s not the same person she was. As such I turn to reflecting on the great things about her and what made her such a great mom in my eyes.

My mom loved us all her kids unconditionally. We may have fought with each other from time to time, we might have hated her that slipper when we younger, we might have hated the “rules of the house”, we did, and still do, love her. She was there when we needed her most, during those bad times; the scrapped knees, the nasty colds, the terrible two’s; and during the great times; our birthdays, our graduations, the birth of her grand kids. She truly was wonderful in all she did.

To this mom I’m so grateful to have you as mother. Your love has made me into the man I am.

Happy Mother’s Day!


Happy Birthday Mom

Today is my lovely mother’s birthday. As you all know by now she suffered a ischemic stroke on November 12th. She has been doing better with little improvements everyday, granted she can’t fully speak yet, but new words seem to come out of her everyday.

My mom is a strong woman. She’s always been there when members of my family have been sick or in the hospital. She’s always made sure that you followed doctor orders and gave support wherever she could. It is strange that she is now on the receiving end of all this.

Tonight the family will gather at the hospital and help her celebrate her 74th birthday. We’ll of course sing Happy Birthday to her and hopefully she’ll join along.

I love my mom. It was because of her that I am the person I am today. I feel lucky to have her in my life.

Happy Birthday Mom!

My Mother's Stroke

So I was debating most of these days whether I’d blog at all about my mom’s stroke. Most of my friends on Twitter and Facebook already know what has happened, and for it is helping me by updating posts and seeing the great generous feedback I’ve been getting from my friends and family. The support is truly amazing.

My mother suffered an ischemic stroke on Friday. An Ischemic stroke is occurs when there is a blockage of blood to the brain cells. This could be caused by buildup of plaque (either fatty tissue, calcium or scar tissue).

The stroke affected my mother’s left side of the brain and thus affected her right side of the body. She has limited movement onĀ  her right leg currently and no movement at all on her right arm. Since the area of the brain also deals with speech, she has suffered from aphasia; when she speaks words sound mumbled and only a fraction of the words that she says are recognized. She doesn’t suffer from reverse aphasia where she hears us speaking to her in mumbles. We still don’t know if her ability to read or write is affected at this early in the game.

I have to say it the staff here at York Central Hospital have been awesome. They have placed my mom in a specific wing that deals only with stroke patients. I am surprised at the differences in the stroke patients here and sadly think that my mom is the worst of the lot currently here. That said, this is only day 5 of her post stroke and with the improvements that I’ve seen in her these short few days I know she will get better.

The hardest thing for me personally is the fact that my mom has always listened to her doctors, always took her medication, always went to her appointments and still she suffered a stroke. I don’t blame anyone here, what I’m saying is that one never knows when these health issues might happen, one never knows when it might happen to you.

This has opened my eyes on making sure I become healthy and stick around longer. It has made me thankful for the time I’ve spent with my mother and the rest of my family and friends. It makes me think long and hard that we have to live every day to our fullest and if we are not, we are just cheating ourselves in the end.

I’m grateful that I’m here during this time and that my family has really stepped it up. I’m so proud of my sisters for their amazing drive and spirit, I’m proud of my nieces and nephews for being here when they can and bringing a sparkle to my mom’s eyes, I’m proud of my dad who is our protector through this time, I’m proud of my brother-in-laws who truly love my mom like their own. My family totally rocks!!

This little exercise for me has helped me and I hope you as my readers, whomever you are, will take something with you from this and hopefully you too will live your life.